Being Alone: Terrifying or a Revelation?

I got the chance to meet Ethan Flabel through Idaho State University’s Womens’ Basketball Team. When I was playing for ISU, he was a practice player for the team. We spent about 2 hours together every day but I never got to sit down and get to know him on a deeper level. While I was scrolling through Instagram, I saw an old post about his book release. I had no idea that he was a writer, let alone published a book. I messaged him immediately and asked if he had any books left. He told me it must have been my lucky day because he had only one copy left.

We met later that day and I got to actually talk to Ethan for about an hour. I learned more about Ethan in that hour than I had in that full month. It was a special experience for me. I got to dive deep into Ethan’s book as well as get to know him better as a person.


My first question to Ethan was why he decided to write and publish a book. He began to tell me about his love for writing, helping others, and mental health. He always loved writing but in his last two years of high school found himself busy. He couldn’t find time to sit down and complete his own writing.


At the end of his freshman year of college, he found himself looking for his passion. He knew in some way he wanted to help people. Yet, didn’t know quite how he was going to do that. Shortly after, he started to find his love for writing again when he began writing Blueprints to Love Being Alone.


Blueprints to Love Being Alone is a simple raw authentic read. It includes seven of Ethan’s personal rules that he learned and taught himself. His seven rules that he swears by are validation, exercise, eating a healthy diet, meditation, finding a passion, being yourself, and smiling. Each rule is a chapter that goes into further detail about his personal experience and ways to accomplish these goals.


What makes this book unique is it feels like you’re reading straight from Ethan’s journal. An example of this is the last chapter of his book. The book’s conclusion is so personal that it feels like a letter from a close friend. The entire book feels like something you can resort to when something is wrong but you aren’t sure how to pull yourself out of it. I can’t wait to look back through the book when I haven’t been doing my best to find a solution for myself. This is only Ethan’s first published book and I am excited to see what he does in the future.


When talking with Ethan we discussed his life plans as well. As of right now, Ethan is planning on earning two degrees. A Bachelor’s degree in Social Work and a Master’s degree in Counseling. He wants a career where he can help people and he believes counseling will be able to allow him to do that. His preference would be to help children and young adults, especially with their mental health. He can also see himself writing more books in the future.

Between school and publishing books, Ethan is a co-owner of the podcast Mentality Champion. He also still makes time to read books about mental health to gain more knowledge on the topic.


Ethan seems like he can do it all between reading, writing, school work, and creating podcasts. Yet, I know that he will succeed in anything he puts his mind to in the future. Stay tuned to what else Ethan has up his sleeves by following his Instagram.



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